Episode 169 - The Me-First Coaching Trap

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There's a growing pain in the evolution of my clients. I've been watching it for years and recently it's started to click what's really happening.

When we start our coaching journey, most of us clean up a lot of old wounds, frustrations, and resentments. We might not COME to coaching to do that, but we have to -- because they hold us back from our goals.

Our goals are modest at first. Feel better about our marriage. Get out of debt. Stop yelling at our kids.

Then we actually get there. We've worked through what's holding us back and we're on to the next horizon.

The experience was magical. So we go for bigger goals. After all, if this felt so good, won't it feel even better to get the dream home, become wealthy, or get a huge promotion?

The goals are never the problem--the belief that achieving the goal will make you feel better is.

You didn't feel better in the first place because you hit your goal. You feel better because you dropped all the old weight that you were carrying around every day--the resistance, the judgement, the negativity. Achieving your goal was just a byproduct.

And what we know is that our biggest achievements will never be reflected in our bank accounts, the trophies on our mantle, or whether we got honored at the last dinner.

Our biggest accomplishments are about what we contribute to our world--whether on a micro scale or a macro scale.

Our biggest accomplishments are on the soul-level.

I'm all for you earning a million bucks and getting your dream house, if that's what you want. Just know that those achievements won't make you feel any different. But the work you do on yourself absolutely will.

What are you meant to contribute?

WHAT YOU'LL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE:

The me first coaching trap
Clearing things up
The end goal

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