Episode 183 - How to Not Kill Anyone This Pesach

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It's the perfect storm. Physical stress, financial stress, lots of people, late nights, high expectations, inadequate afikomen presents...

But you really don't have to kill even one person this Pesach. Really.

Keep this toolkit handy for reference. Some of you might even want to consider printing this out--- or sharing on the family chat (KIDDING!)

1. Supposed to Be - Move yourself out of resistance ("they shouldn't be like that!") by reminding yourself, "this is supposed to be." Even less of a stretch--"this is what is." Simple but powerful. Move your resistant energy (super draining) into proactive energy.

2. The Manual - Notice that you are banging your head against a rule book that you invented of how they are "supposed" to act. It doesn't matter if all your friends agree that this is "not normal." The rulebook doesn't ACTUALLY exist and it actually makes you LESS effective at dealing with the issue at hand.

3. Mindset - Lean into the ridiculousness. You know when things are just so beyond manageable that you finally throw up your hands and surrender? Do that sooner. You were never in control anyway ;)

4. What Genre? - Courtesy of Ilana Kendal from her book Choosing Up! Tap into humor by casting this into a genre. Is this a Looney Tunes cartoon in your living room or more of a horror movie? Try not to laugh.

5. Get Regulated - If your response feels very physical (heightened heart rate, sweating, fast heart beat), start with a physical solution. Your body needs to complete the stress cycle because it got confused and thought this was life or death. Take a walk, a nap, or a cold glass of water. When you're in fight or flight you aren't available to new thoughts, so take care of your body until you're back online.

If all else fails, there's always earplugs. 🙂

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